By Mary Reid

Looking back at some of my previous posts about taking a month off from drinking, the term “indefinite abstinence” immediately stood out on the page. That was my plan in some of those early days years ago.  When I stopped drinking, I discovered I didn’t have a concrete plan, other than to not drink at the time and figure it out from there. I was in uncharted territory and it was a scary idea at first. But what I did have to work with were a couple basic principles, like “I know I don’t want to drink for right now,” and “I want to see how long I can go on an abs (abstinence) streak, then see where it takes me.” Heck, from time to time, that is still my plan these days.  

For some of us, we might not be sure how much time we’d like to take off from alcohol. That’s perfectly okay, maybe even normal. Through attending many Moderation Management meetings over the years and from the kind words of countless MMers, I discovered that it’s good for me to focus much of my energy on navigating each day or each week, taking things one at a time.

As I read my previous posts, I am reminded that the daily struggle remains real. There are still those days where an internal voice suddenly speaks up and asks me “how about a drink?” In response, I am continuously grateful I have learned how to react to that question, whether I’m taking an abs day or doing a longer abs streak.  

The two tactics that seem to work the best for me are to “delay and distract.” I’m constantly reminded that alcohol permeates our society and that a drink will always be around, but I have the power to decide if I want it or not. Since alcohol remains prevalent, there’s no need for me to drink like it’s going out of style. I have the power to choose not to drink today, and I will be thankful for that choice when I wake up tomorrow.  

As a bonus, by passing on the drink (delaying), I now have the benefit of being able to get to the part where I get to distract myself. I am mentally and physically free from the impairment alcohol provides, and I have earned myself some free time. What I choose to do with that time is up to me. Countless websites, books and articles provide great suggestions for productive and rewarding things I can do to enjoy that time.

I also find that my interpersonal relationships improve when I’m not drinking.  Abstaining allows me the time and mental capacity to have more deep and meaningful conversations with others.  If there’s something I’ve put off dealing with, I know that it’s time to quit stalling and get busy!  Some tasks may not be the most pleasant (chores, cleaning, house repair, etc.) but when I make some progress, the sense of accomplishment in the end is worth it.

So commend yourself on joining us for this 30 day break and taking positive steps in a new direction. If you have a bad day or something does not go as planned, we understand and we’ll be here for you. This is a judgment-free zone, where everyone is welcome and no amount of progress is too small. We’ll help you celebrate your progress and provide encouragement on your journey.